I know it wounds like I am unusually stressed and anxious. But after A LOT of reflection I really think most (maybe not all) of my struggles are normal / reasonable reactions. My therapist agrees. My W is trying to balance an exciting, expanding career with a very busy home life. I have supported her in everyway possible but I can't do anymore, and her work life is very exciting and enticing. Part of me being more assertive means saying no the things I just can't do for her anymore - just out of concern for my health and the security of my job - and she gets really upset by that. We will make schedules or arrangements that work the best we can - agree to them - but they always change to suite her work. I can't rely on what she says. Setting boundaries is becoming very important, but also a difficult challenge.
You said it earlier - I have to expect the ups and downs. I walked away from a budding argument this morning about yet another conference she wants to attend, that would require me canceling one of mine (the first time I'll be away in a long while). I held firm, as nicely as I could.
Well, too much from me today.....hope you are well!
