I Like Mine With Butter...please!

[MeMyselfandI]

Hi Courageou, I saw you posted a question on my thead regading the mediation process and whether I saw the Monster throughout it. Yes, absolutely. H becamse an entitled little PR to the point that all of our mediation was scheduled via conference call instead of face to face because I found it easier to separate the issues and to keep my focus on the kids when I didn't have to see his face. The mediator told me it was very unusual to do these sessions via conference call but I held firm that it was the only way I would proceed.

Prior to this dividing of assets we had been on fairly friendly terms but everything changed at that point. I don't mean to scare you but do want you to be prepared. One thing I learned at the end of it all was to pick my battles. I took only what I knew I needed to be able to provide for my kids and let him go off into greedy land. It's funny, it took a while, (last December to be exact), but he has started apologizing for some of the things he did during that process. I on the other hand, can look myself in the mirror and know that I did right by me and have no regrets and nothing to apologize for during that process.

I'm not saying to let everything go because you do have to protect yourself financially of course. The other thing I didn't have to deal with at the time was OW and I may have approached things differently if I had. In my case, I would tell myself that I could fight over $5K but the associated court costs would make the effort futile and at least if I let it go, that money would somehow go towards the kids. I don't know if this was the right approach, but it is what kept my sanity at the time. I would have a picture of the kids with me when I would take the calls as well, just to keep my focus where it belonged.

Hugs to you!