I have been receiving texts and phone messages from my wife.
Take your time to respond to these. I'm not at all telling you to be disrespectful or anything. She needs to realize that your not always going to be at her beck and call now. AND you need to realize that you need your space as well.
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There is a stalemate. She will not consider counseling unless I admit to affair while we were married that never happened. I dont know how to get her past that. I am so frustrated and now she is threatening to date and have an affair.
You CANNOT get her past anything. She has to do the work. The minute you realize this and truly ACCEPT it, your frustrations will begin to vanish and they will be replaced with a sense of peace and inner stregnth.
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I can not believe that knowing this wife of mine for thirty years;that it has come to this.
This is what concerns me a bit. Bobby, the wife you knew is gone for now. You can't relate to her in the same way OR EXPECT her to be that woman of the past.
She's got some demons to face and by the sound of things, she either whats to take some huge shortcuts or she is being extremely manipulative. Listen to Seeking, both a very common when it come to MLC. Things will most likely get worse before they get better.
Place your focus on you, you're gonna need to dig deep. There is a balancing act that takes place. Certain crazy crap you just shake your head and pay no mind to, but there are certain times you must stand firm.
ALWAYS keep your cool and treat her with respect. She is going to push your buttons and try her best to get you to react emotionally. Don't fall for it Bob.
