We used mediation and it was still a gruelling process. I'll be sending some good vibes your way and thinking of you.
You posted this in my thread so I brought it over here to ask you if during the mediation process your H showed "monster" at all? Were you able to remain on friendly terms during the process?
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing