Originally Posted By: spellfire
Well you pushed back on the jacket issue, so that is good. You do need to keep standing up for yourself, just don't let her ruffle your feathers so much.

Keep doing the best job you can at work, pour your energy into it. You have already increased your "value".

Now that you have a job, what is the next thing you are going to work on to make yourself a better man?


I admit that I let my feelings and hurt get the better of me some moments. It's getting better, though...not great, just better. I miss my wife, E________, so much.

Besides all the 180s and GAL I've been incrementally doing since the separation occurred, there are a couple of things I'm trying to ramp up in terms of self-improvement. I've already been working out, but living alone it's really easy to slack dietary and physically, so I have kept with a regiment to keep fit and bring back my good old swimmer-bod muscle tone.

The other thing I just started doing about 4 days ago has been an abstinence from masturbation. It's something the porn addiction support group say will help in the long term. I think being tired out from work has been helping. smile

BTW, thanks for checking in, Mike! How are you faring?


M37, S5
M-7y; T-8y
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I filed child custody 042012; obtained custody 070312
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