well, i have been away for a while so i will keep this short so i can get to reading and catching up.
I was out of country for work and my wife not only didnt stay with the kids, she saw them only once. She has been very nasty to me over the last couple of weeks, and pretty much the comments have revolved around why could i not have been the father and person i am now before she got fed up and left.
I met her for coffee this morning at her work, and i told her flat out i cant stand the negativity and her hating me. I told her she was my best friend and i hated that we couldnt even have a conversation about the children with out her flipping out. It was kinda like my comments were a relief to her. She said she wants to be able to call me and talk to me, she doesnt want to fight. She realizes what she has done and that she hopes we can move past it and be friendly. i stopped the conversation at that point, drove her home and asked if she needed my support for her trial tomorrow. Which she told me, she got into this mess by herself, she will geet out of it by herself. I told her i would be at her house at 8am to pick her up and take her, she neednt do this on her own.
I then went to our mutual friends house and asked WTF is going on with w. Her friend told me that she is starting to come unglued with OM. He aparantly is extremely lazy, cheap, procrastanates on everything, he wont clean the spare room of all his bball cards and figurines so the kids have a room to sleep in. he wont let her have a dog, wont go for walks with her and he watches sports and plays on the computer all the time. His car has been broken and he wont spend the money to fix it and it is unsafe for my kids to ride in.
So ya it seems the bubble is close to bursting. The mutual friend did say that my wife admitted that we had a good marriage, that we were happy, that things were good between us until she did what she did. She admitted that we had achieved the goals we had set for ourselves and that she got bored.
She mad a comment about how gray her hair was to our friend and our friend said go do something about it to which my wife replied, i can only use a box dye, i dont make enough money any more and OM doesnt give her any. She misses how i treated her, how i would give her a couple of hundred and say go get your hair done and have a mani and pedi. She said she missed being treated like that!
Ok, SO I AM BEGGING FOR AS MUCH ADVISE AS I CAN GET FROM YOU FOLKS ON HERE.
this all seems good to me, seems that things are starting to change. I dont want to screw this up, it might be my only real shot at getting my family back. I have asked for help before and have recieved lots of advise. this time i feel i really need to be coached by the experts on how to move forward.
