Iron, take a deep breath, buddy. Yes, it is upsetting that they are willing to break up the family. I know in my heart that I still struggle with the abandonment aspect of S. But, you can't go at her with comments from around the corner like that. It is just not fair to her regardless of what she wants to do. That flies in the face of all DBing principles.

I do want to commend you though. You do recognize that your behavior is not good and it was good that you came her to vent instead of venting to her. Both very good moves.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...