How do you trust someone who isn't sorry?

[MrBond]

Nope you're arguing a moot point. Re-read your post just now. You were actually contradicting yourself in the same post.

I never said to be confrontational, just don't respond right away. You don't want to walk on eggshells, then don't. Standing up for yourself and seeing to your needs means that you gain self-respect.

"I feel like I'm constantly auditioning for the part of his wife and if I pass, he reciprocates my efforts."

Wrong. He has to pass being a H to you. The reason why you think like this is because you've lost your sense of wealth. You are the prize to be won. Not him.

You're his third W. He's learned that if things get tough, then he should bail. You have to get him to WANT to fight for you. HE has to prove his worth to you.

"It's exhausting and unfair and makes me pull away more every day. So I am GAL'ing, building up walls even as I DB."

It's called detaching. But it's a delicate dance. You want to detach without totally resenting him if you want the M to survive.