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[MeMyselfandI]

I just got another message from H.

H: Kids report cards sent to you, we have 1 honor student and 1 near drop out

I wrote back saying I was just heading out for dinner but that I would have a look when I got back later. He writes back saying this one is real bad and he suggests that she move into English, (she is in French Immersion) and goes on to say that she is not getting french at all. I respond again, saying I'm out with a friend, I think this needs to be throught through and talked through and I have some comments but now is not the time.

He responds Yup.

OK, I am heading for dinner with a friend (male and cute btw) but I want to get this down to see if I can get feedback before we have to discuss this situation. Our D is struggling hard this year and some of the parenting decisions H has been making haven't helped that much, (i.e. having her out at the hockey rink till 11:30 pm on a school night and to boot, she had a test the next day). Also, this whole separation has been difficult on her and I'm sure has affected her grades as well, this running between houses, different routines, not to mention all her extra curricular activities. My problems are:

1. How do I mention to H about the late nights at the hockey rink, etc. without causing an argument
2. How do I bring up that this whole separation has likely had an affect on her grades
3. I also want to mention that I think she has had a very difficult year and that if we pull her away from her class now, and friends she has been with since Kindergarten, it will be more detrimental on her in the long run.

One other comment her teacher sent to both of us in a recent email indicated that he did NOT think the work was too hard for D but she just wasn't applying herself. That, in itself should be enough for H to realize that maybe we need to focus a little more on this and try to get her to work to her potential but I dunno. Anyone who's had to have some of these hard discussions and has any advice, please chime in.