One of the things "nice guys" tend to do is put one woman on a pedestal and tie all their own happiness up in that person, so that when that is ripped away, it feels like their life has ended
Bingo Mike. Yup, that's how i treated my wife and felt all the time. Very oddly, this week i am feeling more empowered. My world does not seem that bleak anymore. Yesterday my analytical mind did reason that me looking for another relationship right now is more fantasy than reality. But still it is not like I just felt totally down. That is good, because if this was a month back, i would have a down day. I am getting there. slowly. I am beginning to realize that I too am desirable. If my W cannot find that, thats her bad luck. I do grieve for my daughter in all this, but the one thing i can do as a man and a dad is always and always be there for my daughter.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
That is key. As someone who comes from a broken home, I can tell you that the single most important thing is to ensure your D does not grow up feeling rejected by you.
As long as you make the effort to be part of her life, later on she will repay you with the same.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
