It is very understandable that it is during these times we do crave some reciprocity from our spouses. Sadly that is one commodity that i am sure other folks here might say is a rare one. You see I am actually on the D path. Everytime wife needs something, she's in full contact mode (bank info, account details). After she gets them, total darkness. It killed me. Even now I hate it when i see her number because i know that she's calling me so that she can get some info from me.
Oddly until this week i thought that i'd never make it without her (and my precious daughter). Just realized. I am sure i can live without her. Hell, I can actually thrive. I am right now at the point for looking for new relationships.
Maybe you need to open up to new people. New friends. New activities. Reach out to family if you are in good terms with them. I dont want to offend you, but I'd say you are lucky that you dont have kids. Everyday and every moment i see kids anywhere i cannot help but tear up knowing I am missing every single precious moment of my baby.
I have slowly started believing in the saying "All that happens is for your own good. You just don't know it yet"
take care.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...