I take it you never had one of these talks with our W.
Clarify: You mean you don't think I had this type of talk with my wife?
You'd be wrong. : )
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I think many books on affairs suggest that the person with the A have to basically answer any questions from the other spouse.
I cannot think or recall any books that don't. However I believe these books also caution the LBS to be careful and not over burden the spouse who had the affair.
"On Sept 9th did you or did you not go to dinner with another man?"
"I think sooo..."
"You think so? You THINK so? I have the proof right here!! Why are you lying to me? What else did you do? What did you order/ What color eyes did the waitress have?!?!"
That...desire for answers? That becomes additive too. Like Snooping...and when you can't find something you decide to keep looking deeper and deeper, you almost feed your own paranoia until you do discover something.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
