This has been an issue....I have always had that little twinge in the back of my mind that something was going on. Something wasn't adding up. The first time I approached H about this, 2 years ago on 2/15, I was a physical and mental wreck. I confronted in completely the wrong way. I told him "we have to talk" so he knew it wasn't going to be a nice conversation. I asked him about the house that we were supposed to build for the then H & W (now supposed OW). We worked so hard getting that project going, then she up and left her H. The husband decided to continue to build his house, but my H dropped out of the project and referred another builder. AFTER ALL OF THAT WORK. 9 MONTHS OF PREPARATIONS.
That is when my intuition kicked in and I realized that my H was probably having an A with client's wife. My H DENIED vehemently that nothing was going on and that he had nothing to do with the breakup of their marrige. Uh-huh!
The next time I confronted, last year in March, also not the best confronting tactic chosen, after finding the email about OW's own new house project, he just said "I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT'S ABOUT". Really? The architect contacted him via his email and he played clueless. He must think I am a complete moron.
So now here I am...two years later...same bat place...same bat story. But now I know via public records relating to her construction project that my H has some involvement in it. He has never once talked about it. Then the phone call...
He is actually very nice to me. Polite. Friendly. Not super amorous, but we are still intimate. (I know, I need to be careful!).
I am scared to bring this up again. The last two times, I was sure by his reaction that it would be the end of my marriage. I just wish I knew what his plans are. Should I keep being the faithful forgiving wife and pretend that our "perfect family" is still perfect?
This flat out bites.
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
