Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Down,
what you are feeling right now is perfectly normal. I went through it too. You're not alone.

If your told her the truth about being asleep and she didn't believe then that's on her.

How and what boundaries is/are she crossing?
Have you stated them to her?
If so what dod you tell her your actions would be?

I am not saying that things couldn't work out but I am going to be myself and for myself.

This is what it's all about.
maintain this attitude.

You said to her you will only have contact with her about the kids or D, make sure you stick to that.
And expect her to cell or text you with trival things about the kids. Boundaries are for you. The protect your feelings.
The will help you not to get angry when they are cross b/c you have stated what your actions will be.
Just follow through with them.

I used one last night on my STBX. I emailed last week about the kids and asked her two specific questions. She replied back but didn't answer them.
We spoke yesterday and I just listen to her speak about how SHE was having problems with the kids behavior.
I let her speak then she added, The kids need structure.
All I said was I agree. I was very short with her.

I emailed later that day and set my boundary.
You responded to my email below. Did you read the whole thing? The reason why I ask is because your repeating the concern for D6 I mentioned in it. Also I asked you a two specific questions. I didn't receive an answer to either one.
I will share how I feel about this: I feel frustrated when I ask you questions in emails and you chose not to respond to them. For whatever reason you chose, it makes me feel my opinions do not matter. If this continues, I will continue to be short with you.

Well last night she reply, answering both questions I had.


Down, be firm with your boundaries.

[downandoutintn]

I did state my boundaries today. I told her that I am tired of being treated like sh!t and I am not going to tolerate it. I didn't set what was going to happen other than I wanted to be left alone and I was dead serious. I think that was self exclamatory. I don't want to be bothered, I want to move on with my life and if she wants to treat someone badly then she can treat someone else that way. I really don't care any more if she wants to work it out. My action is as stated. I am not going to be treated like this and since you are I am not talking to you about anything other than the kids or the D. I didn't put it into form like your email but I think my point got across. I am pretty sure it made her mad but I don't care anymore. I am tired of saving her feelings for mine. She doesn't care about my feelings so why should I care about hers?