"think im gonna back off a little with the sex thing and try to concentrate more of some emotional connection."
Gee that sounds familiar.
Have you read the 5 Love Languages? Do that to start the emotional connection going. Gently flirt with her without it leading to sex on your part. Compliment her alot, especially in front of friends or family when you're together. Even just telling her something like she has the most amazing eyes would help.
Emotional needs also includes the romance. Romance not sex.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.