Thank you both. I just realized that everything he does is manipulative in some way (to get me to do what he wants, to get what he wants, to get others to think he's a better man, etc). So I post on FB... and it's all true... that's not so bad. I do need to stop beating myself and second-guessing everything. That is a huge work in progress.
I texted him back a simple "Glad you got there ok" text. If he responds, I'll be shocked. He'll "punish me" for not responding to him by not responding to me unti tomorrow.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11