Originally Posted By: Jedi Master aka Mach1 aka Thorn-in-my-side
All the Grrlz are here....
Sorry I’m late for the par-tay grrr, but as you get to know me you’ll find out that’s par for the course ... I’m sure I’ll be (fashionably) late for my own funeral (yes Mach, because I was writing my own long winded eulogy ... geesh ...)
Ok, so by now it’s been established that the backslide happened ... so shoot you. Mach’s right, they’re only mistakes if you don’t learn from them. And learn you did ...
Originally Posted By: grrr
i might have read into that, but recently got some advice from some very wise women, so told him that was nice and let him chat at me and then made sure to hang up first
AND ... to look at dbmod’s questions ...
What didn’t work .... R talk. What did work ... NO R talk. The proof is in the pudding.
Grrr, the day this started to get easier (and no, not easy, but easier) was the day I finally got that DB is not really a set of tactics to magically win back a marriage. It’s so so so much more than that. DB is a philosophy, a communication style, a relational model you can, and should, use with everyone in your life. It promotes self health and awareness and conflict resolution and solution oriented thinking. It promotes taking responsibility for one’s self and one’s own emotions and reactions and responses. Take it on like a project. Do it for you.
MLC is an amazing place ... without the books and the folks over there (and yes some folks here in NC too ), I’d still be a mess. These boards helped save me.
Keep at it girl ... Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
(yes Mach, because I was writing my own long winded eulogy ... geesh ...)