Piecing is almost harder than before #2...

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Have things been improving?

It is HARD to see slow movement forward, but if you look at where you were you can see how far along you, she, both of you have come.

Second guessing I believe is healthy. Taking her back no matter what, or how she acts? I think is harmful.

Second guessing allows you to evaluate your wants. As long as you logical and do not become paralyzed by second guessing.


As for your question about her EA and how deep or if it had progressed to a PA?

Does it matter? That is not me being trite.
She is with you now and working on being married to you. Maybe not fast enough for you, but seems that she is.

Knowing more details or digging in the past, is that going to help you right now? Some answers you just don't need to know in order to achieve your goals.

My wife for sure as the sun is in the sky right now had one affair. Do I suspect another one happened as well at the time? Yes pretty positive.
Do I need to know that for sure?
Knowing that doesn't help me be married in the here and now.
And she hasn't shown any reason for me to believe she doesn't want to be married.

X,
Does her love match yours?
Not likely, but loving someone isn't about, "I'll only love you if you love me back. 50-50"
Her effort is there man.

You mention trust, as in how can you trust she won't walk away again.
Well...I bet she has a similar fear about you falling back into old patterns. How can she trust you won't?

You're showing her right? And she, seems to be slowly showing you as well.

If you love someone, you give them the ability to hurt you like no other person, but you trust they won't.