well i am being her friend talking to her about everyday stuff our kids and just being there if she needs me. not getting to close and letting nature take its course. i can tell a difference in the first time we had sex and the second. there was a whole lot more kissing on her part. and like i said earlier she is starting to initiating conversations and saying good night sending the kissing icons. im not putting much into that just trying to love her with no expectations.