2 years later it's still not getting easier

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I am not aware of any. Of course Michele's books cover chapters on this.

It's pretty straight forward:

GAL = be all that your are and how you were when you first met your spouse. Be dedicated to something your are passionate about....work, hobbies etc.

Act As if = Be positive and move forward with your life.

Focus on yourself = take the time to explore all that makes you happy as an individual. Take the time to learn about yourself, relationships, communications etc.

Focus on your kids = Make their lives the best you can given the situation.

That is really all you can do at this point. You have to leave your spouse to do what they need to do as they are going to do it anyway.

That being said, it still all [censored] ! There are good days and there are bad days.
When I leave my X alone she becomes friendlier. When I reciprocate warm and fuzzy feelings she pulls back.

It's such a waste, but there is nothing you can do about it other than all you are doing.