He had suggested the 180 to do some research and possibly at least one follow-up discussion on how to tell our son about the situation. I think I've learned this flies in the face of how I have been handling conflict in our marriage. The problem is we are both conflict avoiders. I tend to dodge the conflict and my W tends to withdrawl. By setting up a time to talk and meeting this conflict head-on, in an odd sort of way, it has introduced a positive change to our relationship. She actually thanked me for doing the research and thanked me for talking about it and bringing it up.
She is still asking my opinion on a lot of stuff and she's told me she values my feedback. She is starting to look for a place to live. I asked her if she would like for me to look at a couple places with her (I am calling it a 180), and she was pleasantly surprised.
Still working on the GAL. The weekend away was fantastic. Got to go to the UNC-Duke game with my son. It did get a little harder when I got closer to home on the way back. I'll have say I shed a multitude of tears for our son and for our relationship.
So - hopefully I am seeing some baby steps in chipping away at her wall she's built up.
