I know your struggles, we don't want to live life without them. The GAL, and "new us" feels pointless without them in our lives and we look for signs all the time that show they miss the life with us as well.
At times I feel like she does, and others she seems intentionally distant.
It was my birthday last week, and my W was on vacation (without me) with D6. She never called, didn't get D6 to call or anything. When she returned home, she didn't wish me a belated "Happy Birthday" and she didn't apologize for missing it.
I feel like she is going out of her way to show me "I don't care about you anymore", in hopes that I eventually don't care about her anymore. It's depressing.
She told me yesterday that her dream is to meet and marry a cowboy, someone that shares the same likes, dreams and loves as her. She asked me, "Wouldn't you be a lot happier if you had a W that loved to watch hockey with you?" I told her that I don't think having the exact same interests is healthy, that everyone needs to have some of their own interests.
I don't think anything is going to change with us until she feels she's done what she can to fullfil her dream - I just wish I understood exactly what triggered her strong feelings go after it and leave me behind?
For now I'm not going to stop trying to be a better husband and a better person, especially calmer and I'm going to do my best to avoid expectations - something I believe I've done a much better job of lately.
Anyways, hopefully you can relate FOBD and it gives a little bit of comfort.
Stay focused on you, and when you sitch's arise be the man you want to be and show her what she is missing!
BITS SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
