Buffalo

[Denver_2010]

UPDATE

Ok... I have the last 3 days of my trip to Buffalo and today to update on. I'm just going to list the highlights.

But before I get into that... The night that I got upset over the text messaging, W told me who she had been messaging with. It was not OM. She volunteered this info. I know that OM texted her during the trip and I'm sure that W responded. But I don't think that it was a whole lot. And I know for a fact that she ignored 2 of his texts on Friday night.

Saturday

Great day. W and I got along great. No R talk. W complimented me in the morning after I got dressed. She said to me "You look handsome today. but you always look handsome"

W brought up me wanting to take she and SS snow mobiling up in the mountains and asked when i wanted to do that. We discussed it and agreed to go this coming weekend. She brought up getting a place and staying the night. I nearly jumped out of my skin to agree. (unfortunately, she later remembered that she has a bday party to go to... but she invited me to be her 'date' so all is good).

At dinner W put her hand on my knee for a few seconds.

W and I had a beer together at bedtime. She laid on the couch where she was sleeping and put her leg up on me while I sat next to her. She let me show her physical affection by running my hand on her back and through her hair. I gently kissed her (not lips) at different points. She fell asleep. I kissed her again and whispered to her 'goodnight sweet girl'... she smiled ... not sure if she was still asleep or not.

Sunday

We went to lunch with her cousin and his boyfriend. Very similar to Saturday with the contact bw W and I. She let me put my are around her, let me give her a kiss on the cheek a couple of different times, etc. At lunch, she and I were sitting next to each other. When everyone else was involved in their own conversation, I leaned over to her and told her that she looked beautiful. It has always been a running joke bw us that she doesn't know how to respond to a compliment when I give it to her. We shared a laugh about this when I told her that she is beautiful.

We took a drive up to the Canadian side of Niagra Falls. It was a very long day. While W and I spent a lot of the time hanging out and and enjoying our trip together, I focused on making sure that SS and niece were having fun. SIL is pregnant, so I also helped a lot with carrying niece and getting her in and out of her winter bundle (it was freezing!).

On the way home, I saw in middle row of mini van with niece and W sat in back row with SS. I reached back to rub her leg... she grabbed my hand. We held hand for a few minutes.

Bedtime was the same as it was Saturday night. I sat with W until she fell asleep, kissed her goodnight and whispered 'goodnight sweet girl'... she again smiled.

Monday

Packed in the morning and W drove me to airport.

On the way there W asked me about the marriage counseling that I want to do. She told me that she thought that SS needed to be involved in our counseling in some way due to his issues and how he has perceived what has happened bw she and I. I agreed and told her that I would start looking into things when I got back to Denver.

When we arrived at the airport and got my luggage out of the car, she and I embraced in a big hug. She told me that she was 'really happy' that I came out to Buffalo, and that she had a lot of fun hanging out with me. I kissed her on the lips and we said goodbye.

Before I got on my flight, she texted me to let me know that she found her way back to her grandma's house. Not going to include everything said but the highlights:

W: "Let me know when you're situated on the plan so that I know u r on your way. Had fun with you here. Glad you came. Thanks again for coming!"

Me: "I had a blast with you. You don't have to thank me. If its up to me, yu're going to have a tough time going anywhere without me from now on. "

W: " "

Later... right before my plane took off...

Me: "Plane getting ready to take off. I will call or text you from Atlanta. Luv u guys."

W: "Ok. Save travels. Love u 2!"

Later during my layover in Atlanta...

Me: "Just got to Atlanta."

W: "Glad you are there. We are going to Anchor Bar for dinner tonight!"

Me: "Nice! I will talk to you later tonight."

W: "Ok. Have fun at the airport. Let me know when u r leaving Atlanta please."

Me: "Ok!"

Later during my layover...

W: "I forgot that A's bday party is this Saturday. Can't go to the mountains. Sorry!"

Me: "Ok. Let me know if there is another weekend. "

W: "Maybe the 26th or the next weekend."

Me: "Ok. Damn. I was looking forward to it."

W: "Sorry. I'm sure it'll work out. Maybe I'll take you as my date Saturday."

Me: "Ooo... me as a date?? Luv it!! "

W: "Lol!"
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We talked again briefly when I arrived in Denver and then again, briefly, before bed. Nothing to really note here.

Tuesday (today)

W texted me very early when she was getting on her flight and again when she landed in Chicago. I was still in bed. I sent her a brief reply when I woke up thanking her for letting me know that she and SS were safe. She texted me again when they were back safely in Denver.

Later in the day, I texted her to let her know that I had decided not to go into my office bc I was tired. She called me. She was laying down for a nap. We agreed to talk later.

She called again when she woke up. She mentioned that she was hungry, so I invited her to meet me for an early dinner. She agreed.

We met, had dinner and then walked over to a Verizon store. We share a cell phone plan. We began looking at the iphones bc both of us need new phones. The sales rep told us that we would get a huge discount if we wanted to buy new iphones as long as we signed a 2 year contract.

I offered to buy us the new phones as long as she thought it was wise for us to sign a new 2 year contract together. She didn't flinch. So we got new cell phones!

The biggest thing to note about this contact is that W was STILL wearing her wedding rings ... even though we were back in Denver and away from the family that she was worried about not knowing about our separation. I had already decided that I'm going to keep wearing mine but not bring it up to her.

By the time this was all done, it was getting late. We said goodnight and that we'd talk tomorrow.

Things seem to be progressing well.

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Denver