You're right that detachment is a state of mind. It was also very hard for me to get there. We are all on our own clocks with this.
Interesting that you equated your H's infatuation with OW to that of teenagers. Have you also noticed that because it is "forbidden" it's like telling your teenage daughter she is forbidden from seeing a boy. Talk about a way to make her "fall in love" with him.
You parents were lucky you were a dutiful daughter. I realize that it is also cultural, just the same it could have been much tougher on everyone.
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Why can't our spouses think about that or realize that?
They're really incapable of thinking of much of anything outside their own happiness. I think they are hurting so much they are just looking for anything to relieve it.
