Shine on you crazy diamond III

[Queen_of_Swords]

So, I was crushed on the way home. I decided to send her a brief text stating, "Happy Mardi Gras! I hope you and your crew are having a wonderful time. :-)" That was two hours ago... nothing. Now, I guess maybe the message is having trouble getting through. Some messages were taking up to an hour to go through. But, I am pretty sure she is just ignoring me again. Lovely! 16 year tradition down the drain and you can't send me a letter and a number... "U 2"?????? I realize I am once again having expectations. But, really? Really?

FOBD, the dawn will come, you will feel better... eventually.

I think the hardest part for we LBS is to understand that when it comes to us is that, no, they don't care about our feelings.
Too long our spouses felt stepped on, ignored, discounted, disrespected and dishonored.
In their minds they are fully justified in treating us they way they felt we treated them.
Is it considerate? No . Is it polite? No. Are we often treated worse than a stranger? Yes. Is it fair? No. Is it childish? Better believe it!

You're right, your expectation of how things "should" be are colouring how you feel right now.
My suggestions?
Lower those expectations to bare minimum. You are a stranger to her.
I've been flat out told by my H. he doesn't know me anymore, it sorta makes me laugh because after a time of DBing, and the program I'm doing he really doesn't! His expectations of me are totally FUBAR'ed now.

Breathe FOBD, let this one go. She can't miss you if you're bugging her.

I'm sorry your trip was not what you wished.