That's exactly what it is. I know that but it is still hard to take it away. The fear of removing a crutch is that you'll fall.
I had to contact the W about money, she owes me the first month installment of mortgage, etc. I was supposed to bring it up at the Dr. but forgot. She said she had brought her checkbook but forgot as well. Anyways, no fights about money anyways, not yet at least.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.