Honestly i don't do a lot of the contacting. When I feel stuck or too much time has gone by I will reach out. At some point I will stop that I think completely.
How about when you just want to say "hi". No other reason, no thoughts about time, etc...
Act like you want to be her friend, NOT her husband who is still waiting for her to come around.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
