Cant StandThis Roller Coaster

[John170]

If it goes thru it goes thru so be it.

[John170]

whats funny though bond is that when i detached she started the sex and dating thing.

[John170]

and it bothers her when we have sex and i leave and dont contact her

[John170]

I dont think that things are far from over with us. there is at least a physical spark.

[MrBond]

"and it bothers her when we have sex and i leave and dont contact her"

This should bother you as well. Start working on the emotional spark along with the physical, and the D will be forgotten.

[John170]

Bond how do i work on the emotional spark what do i do. She has filed and the papers will be ready for me to sign this week. I just need guidance.

[MrBond]

Start with just talking to her. Tell her that you're busy and can't do it right now. Re-establish that friendship with her. Seriously, what is the rush with the paperwork?

[John170]

its not a rush with me bond its with her. im not the one that wants this just gotta figure out a way to slow it down for now.

[John170]

well this week has been going good my wife contacts me about our child and text me all day. yesterday i met her to pickup our son and i was tired just said hey how are you and left. she immediately text me and ask what was wrong. i said nothing and she responded saying ok was just wondering. i followed up by telling her how beautiful she looked, she said with no makeup and my hair was wet. i said ur beautiful to me no matter how u look on the outside she laughed and send me a little kiss face icon. she text me last night and said night with the same little kiss icon and i said night. she then initiated the sexually charged comments as she has done every night for the past two weeks. this went on until midnight when i told her i enjoyed talking to her but needed to go to sleep she responded said ok night and sent the little kiss icon again.

[MrBond]

Great job. Keep it going. The no R talk is working out well.