update

[cat04]

Grr,

I am going to disagree with everyone here.

You did backslide.

You backslid in your behaviors and your expectations (having the R talk and looking for a different answer).

You recognize it, and that is a good thing.

So next time, what are you going to do differently?

Or are you going to continue behaviors that you KNOW cause you pain?

None of this stuff, the 180's, GAL, detatching...

None of it is really to save your M, it is to get you OUT of the tunnel vision of saving your M, and to get you living your life, to become happier, healthier, and to make you attractive to yourself and to other people.

No one wants to be with a sadsack. When we get bombed, when we let what they are doing affect us, that is exactly what we become. SADSACKS.

Would you want to return to someone like that?

I wouldn't.

You have been here a while. I understand you thought you saw some baby steps.

Maybe you did, maybe you didn't.

I haven't read more than this thread and your update, so I am not familiar with your situation more than that.

I see things that sound familiar to me. Very familiar.

I would like to suggest that you read the MLC resources. Read some threads over there. Get to know that monster a little bit and see if you see any thing that strikes home with you.

Cat