Living a Country Song - Part III

[Denver_2010]

Denver, you are right that this OW is confusing matters. She is a pretty cool girl, and she likes me. I wouldn't be human if that didn't feel good. BUT, it is not what I ultimately want. I want my family back. So, she opens up this other path. A path that can bring immediate, but ultimately short lived happiness. I need to step back and look at the big picture again.

Hey listen Country... I completely understand the temptation. We all need validation that we are desirable, both emotionally and physically. In December, I started making time for an OW that was interested in me. She was going through a D which did become final on Jan 6th or so. So she understood what I was going through, offered me a perspective on what my W was thinking, and was generally just made me feel good about myself again.

BUT it was a MIRAGE... bc it was just covering up what I was going through. It was a crutch. That's the best way for me to describe it. When OW began to say things that sounded like she was encouraging me to move on from my M, I stopped all contact with her. And also after a hell of a 2x4 from Sandi! LOL...

You know that my W and I are making really good progress right now. She and I have discussed my R with OW and what did and didn't happen. I can tell you, if I had allowed R with OW to go much further, it would have ruined my chances at reconcilliation with my W. And I would have had something else to regret the rest of my life.

Anyway... point is that I understand and I speak from experience.

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Denver