How long should you try? Until........

[MichelleLT]

Her burdens used to be yours. And your burdens used to be hers. But then she left.

So now they aren't.

And when you R, you need to learn to be interdependent, not codependent. It's a fine line in actions, but how you view the other person and yourself is HUGELY different. It's not your job to rescue each other when the other doesn't want to be rescued. It's not your job to fix things for the other when they don't want you to fix them. You absolutely need to remaind conscious of the fact that she is an adult and entitled to make her own choices and deal with the consequences of them.

Do you want her to stay with you because she doesn't believe she can make it on her own? Or because she wants to be with you?

Okay, enough lecturing. What's the update????