Islander - It sounds like you are making positive steps here. What you have been doing IS working and the #1 rule of DB is to do what works. Keep it up. But don't discount the progress that your earlier efforts and strategies had on getting you here.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce