Couples therapy tonight with no agenda to my knowledge. I desperately do not want to spend the entire time talking about 50/50 co-parenting tonight. Have not heard from my W concerning the desire to talk to a parenting coordinator since we talked about it last week.

Should I bring up our R conversation that we had for a few hours after couples therapy last week?

Would it be harmful to talk about her not having any idea how to self discover after the separation? Would it be harmful to discuss how I would not be supportive of contact with the OW during this time?

I spoke to my therapist last night about it, and he seemed to believe that my expectation is not unreasonable, as it would be harmful to bring in OW while trying to figure out our marriage and wife's needs.

Help me out. I know that I should not be mentioning the OW, as this really is up to my W in the end, but is it okay to discuss in couples therapy?

Me - 33 W - 33
S - 9 months
M - 3 years
T - 5.5 years
Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY
PA discovered - 1/18/11
PA began - 3/22/10
Separated