Running out of time

[Augtan]

GF,

Wanted you to know I am here and read what has been going on, my XH was here from Wed. til Sun. morning, so I wasn't on here much. Again, I am so sorry! I feel your pain and have been there. My XH went nuts like yours a little over 2 years ago, he didn't cut off all contact with the kids but was acting like a complete loon and did awful things to them. He seems to do this in the summer and when he has a woman in his life, it has been the pattern for the last two years anyway.

I still struggle with so much, GF, but it does get better. It is slow and I backslide a lot, had a major set back Saturday night with XH, but I will post that on my thread, as not to hijack yours!! What you have to remember is that even though we didn't choose this, don't want this, have no idea why this happened to us and to our kids, it is where we are and we cannot control anyone else. I hate it so much, I hate that society has made it "okay" to throw your marriage away, that we live in an instant gradification society, etc. I do believe in MLC, but I also believe in Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it has explained a lot about my XH.

Hang in there, vent here, vent as much as you want, cry, scream, let it all out, that is how you heal, keeping it inside will destroy you. You are a great person, once you heal and recover, will be so much better off. You know all this, but it doesn't hurt to hear it all again and again. I am praying for you and your D14!!

A

I don't know about the "rock bottom" stuff, I think they hit it a few times before it sinks in. I have seen what I thought was rock bottom several times with my XH, and then he sinks lower and comes out of it all again, and still in the tunnel.

I don't understand the spousal support ending either...why? Usually that is ordered upon the divorce for a certain number of years, if it applies and the spouse has the money, then child support is until the child is 18 yrs. old or finishes high school, whichever is later. I got scre*ed out of alimony, it is a long story, I was still hoping if I didn't put up a fight he would change his mind and come home. That isn't what happened, that is why I tell everyone to fight for what is fair and right as if you could careless if they ever come home, cause you have to survive and assume they are not going to do that, most don't.