Islander, you are charting a great course! Keep up with the good work.

I just want to caution you on something I read (and ended up proving to myself). In one of my books on S, the author advised that couples do NOT move back too soon. You need to be sure you've worked on some of the issues that brought you to this point and reconnect *before* working on the M.

Every sitch is different, and maybe you and your W are ready, but I'd be patient about moving back together. Don't lose sight of the finish line just because you see a shortcut. Like so many have said here, it's a marathon, not a sprint.

Me 43 W 38
M 5 T 7
SD20
S15, S13 with 1st W
ILYBNILWY June 2010
Separation/Bomb July 2010
Divorce Feb 8, 2011