I'm sorry that you still are in pain. One of the good things is that your old M was dead and gone for a long time. Doesn't matter who filed. It's a blessing in disguise on some stange level. Having said that, YOU are the only one who can dictate when you are truly done. D or no D. What you want now is a new M hopefully with your XH. You didn't come this far in your journey for nothing. I plan to still DB after my D is final in 3 weeks. My STXH knows very clearly where I stand on this. I have told him that the door is open. In the meantime, I am busy GAL'g to the best of my ability and trying to live my life without him. I continue to represent and present myself better each and every day. I want him to see that I AM the greener grass. That my actions will now support my words.
Keep posting as I will try to follow your sitch.
Peace - ZEN
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
