Sage, I don't minimize for one moment the things you have to work through reguardless of how your H treats you now. You had the biggest blow a person can be dealt, and you can't get from A to Z without going through all the other letters first.
Your doing great in how your handling all this. Your working through it without putting your H on the defense thus shutting down communication all together.
You are an inspiration to me who thinks that there may be no hope for my M because I cannot get past the betrayal and lies and the way he seems not to be remorseful and he has not assured me that this OW will never be in our lives again.(he did twice,but it was lies)
She's been around for over 5 yrs. He has feelings for her no matter what he says. She has her hooks in deep and I don't think he can say no to her when she calls to talk.
I refuse to live in suspicion. He killed what we had when he caved and started the A and perpetuated it for so long.
Your H feels a great deal of remorse and is showing you such abundent love! He treats you like he is a man in love. You have a real chance of happiness with your H, and I think you will be one happy woman with him by your side. Rachael
