Busting - As usual, I can rely on your to see the positives in all the negatives. I don't want to be too aggressive when it comes to having fair custody of our son, so moving close to them IS an option I'm considering. I'm trying to think of it as something I want to do for our son, and not think of myself as a doormat for her; She and others can think what they want. I keep telling people it's much easier to give space to your spouse when you don't have children that the two share a close relationship with.
Sandi - I know my wife has our son's best interest in mind, divorce not withstanding. However I want to maintain a close relationship - emotionally and geographically - with him. Moving on is easy, but I have to consider my boy when making decisions like this. Ideally, it would be awesome if my wife remained in the state, but she only has one prospective Californian hospital that might accept her. Otherwise, we're looking at out of state, either mid-west or east coast. If I move, I'm not looking forward to it; I have to job-hunt all over again. Or I can go back to school, which means I have to get on the ball with GREs and applications.
