You're like the Medusa ride at Six Flags all on our own aren't you ?
There is only ONE way to get to where you want to be.
Nobody here should have to convince you to stay married..
What we can do is help and support you through YOUR decisions. The problem lies with that you can't decide anything.
You seem to be full of "maybe's" and "buts".
Both are excuses for not doing better for yourself. Both lead to you being a victim.
By not making emotionally healthy choices, and being able to blame your spouse for "leaving" you, you get the sympathy vote from friends and family....
Not here Country...
You have choices to make
You have choices to live by
You get to choose those things, yet you are unable to make any without a maybe this or maybe that.
F what your wife wants right now, don't change FOR her.
Your choices don't show that you have anything for YOU, let alone her , or your marriage.
What are you so afraid of ?
Why does change scare you so much ?
Originally Posted By: Country_Song
Now I need to decide if I can be the right guy for this new woman
Why don't you start with being that new guy for you....???
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TG, I have thought more about this and I need to be honest with myself.
You BETTER be honest with yourself.
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I have slipped hard as far as my personal goals and improvements are concerned.
Why ?
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I have been drinking more again. I haven't worked out in over a week.
Why ?
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I am seeing some girl I am not even interested in.
Why?
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My current path is more one of self destruction than self improvement.
Why ?
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Mentally I am all over the place. I have been angry at her a lot lately. That makes it hard to focus on me. It makes it hard to care.
You control your thoughts. Your focus isn't on you because you want to be the victim. As long as she did this to you, then you can accept no blame for your relationship failing. STOP
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I guess I need to REALLY decide what I want. What I am willing to do?
Ya think ?
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I guess a part of me just questions all of this. How can it work if she never sees it? If what I am doing doesn't save the M, do I care? I have been a self destructive person for a long time. I care about my family SO much. But I have never cared that much about myself. I know that has almost everything to do with why I am here today.
That is because you don't have any faith in yourself. You don't trust yourself. You don't believe that you are capable of anything other than what history has shown.
To achieve great things, you must involve great risk.....
Country, you are letting history define you, and who you want to be.
You , in present day, through your actions and inner core, is what defines you.
When you can HONESTLY look into that mirror every night and say that you were the best Country you could be...
