W works for my brothers wife. SIL has stayed out of sitch but lately when I am around her and my brother she has been making comments/asking ?'S about how things are going. I was with her and my brother this past Sunday and two things came up.
1. We talked about the day before when I watched the kids because W didn't want to take them to a baby shower. After the kids went home, D called me and mentioned that they were giving mommy a whole new bedroom by moving furniture and taking down things on the wall. Well there are only three things hanging on the walls and they are all M related. It stung to hear but I got it out of my head faster than I have previously.
This is brought up with SIL and apparently it comes up with W at her job on monday because yesterday afternoon I get a call from W saying she wanted to let me know something. She said "I didn't take the wedding stuff off of the wall in the bedroom" "I do not know what D said but I just moved a few things around and took one frame down." "I know you got upset last time I did something to the bedroom and I didn't want you freaking out". I thanked her for calling me but I told her that it didn't bother me if she did anything to the bedroom. Its just room. I did ask "I thought you and SIL didn't talk about sitch?" "We don't" "Well you got a funny way of not talking about it". We laughed and I thanked her for not erasing me from the bedroom and I hung up the phone.
2. Later Sunday I had to go to back to school meeting and drop off paperwork with W afterwards. I get there and kinda make my self at home and just start playing with kids. After about 30min I ask W if she wants me to leave? She says no and we start talking about the C we went to last week. We both agree that nothing came out of it, my ?'S then answers and that it seemed like couples C that we both are not ready for. At one point she tells me that she isn't ready for me to come back home but she isn't ready to sign paperwork yet. She tells me that I should have seen this coming and that I didn't listen to her about her feelings before. I validated the heck out of that.
The convo went on for little bit more and I asked what her plan was? She said she didn't have one and was just going along to see what happens. I make the comment that it seems that unless we have some steps in either direction then we will still be standing in the same place for awhile. She agrees and asked what I had in mind. I said how about we do lunch one day this week and see what goes from there. She agrees to that so I plan on asking her one day. We then stop talking and she asks me to do her favor and change some flood lights in backyard. I agree and during it we are very playful with each other.
One other thing that happened this weekend was that on Sunday I got a text message from my FIL asking if I wanted to go to a father/son breakfast at his church next week. This is the first time I have heard ffrom him since the bomb and in the past 15yrs that I have known him he has never invited me to anything before. I ask him who is going and he says just him and I if I like. I accepted.
