YR, I found while going through the crisis, that at first, I zipped my mouth and tried to keep the peace in all areas. However, as time moved along, I came to realize that if I didn't step up to the plate and tell my xh what was on my mind, he would have walked all over me and taken everything that we had and would have left me on the street corner, in a tent, w/a tin cup. They are truly selfish individuals during this time.
YR, you've been steady as a rock and have done all that you can do to work things through w/your h. It is now time to focus on you and your daughter and what you need to do to ensure that you both are okay, not just now, but in the future.
Your h is going to learn that it's not as easy as it was the first time around to walk away and that you are one smart lady who has learned a lot and will put that knowledge to work for you and your daughter. In time, he will need to face the consequences of his actions and I'm afraid it's going to be sooner than later. Buckle up and be ready for some rough riding in the MLC car.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
