If she goes out of state and I contest her taking our son, she will hang that over my head for the rest of our lives, because the court wouldn't allow her to leave the state, and I would essentially have hampered her dream of being a doctor. [quote]
INHO you must let her pursue her dream.
[quote=alamo76]Not exactly the best way to win your spouse back.
Or it maybe it is the way precisely.
Originally Posted By: alamo76
And from there, things might turn ugly with our son caught in the middle.
Or they might turn beautiful with your son liberated in the middle.
Originally Posted By: alamo76
My wife has suggested in the past that if she moves away, I am more than welcome to move close to them.
That sounds like either an invitation or a dare. Either way, it looks to me like a door.
Originally Posted By: alamo76
I told her I would've followed her to the ends of the earth to fulfill her dream IF we're in this marriage together.
Big talk. Big escape clause.
I have a similar thing going on where not contesting my divorce will result in my not even being able to be in the same country as her for 5 years.
Right now her signed divorce papers are on my desk for me to sign them and send them back.
And right now I am doing everything I can to keep her talking and going to counseling with me.
In the end, if our talks and conversations don't pan out the way I want, I know I will let her go and accept being exiled from her.
Because it was important enough to her to do it.
And I love her.
Not faint-heartedly. Invincibly.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
