Just wanted to let you know that I read your thread often--and knowing what you're feeling and dealing with has helped me tremendously. (I've been in Newcomers a good while and am thinking about moving over here as I'm traveling further down the path of reconciliation.)
I don't believe it's self indulgent to post here and concentrate on what is most important for you and your M. You give back so much just by being where you are. Wanted to let you know that.
BTW, I'm impressed by how you handled the conversation with your H.
