YR I am so very sorry that this is happening to you. Truly after all the mouth zipping there is a time to talk and a time to be silent, and this is when you actually need to say these things, for yourself as well as your h. Some of it does go in.
I no longer have any contact with my xh, but when we have spoken in the past I am surprised how much he took on board. They may, and usually do 'react' to us at the time, but they do go away and process it.
I very much hope the situation with your daughter is resolved. And yes, you definitely need a hug! ((((( :))))))
