I have been in this sitch for 8 months now and the same with me - no matter how it seems like my H is coming back in actions, when we have R talk he always says that I should not hope, not expect anything, and the more I seemed to expect, the more he seemed to withdraw. Whereas initially, after the bomb, there ere times he was not sure of wanting a D, as time went on and we would have R talk he seemd more and more sure of himself, although he does not seem to want one right away. The last time we talkd though, when I was the one who offered the D, he was the oe who seemed to pull back a little, saying "whoa, lets cross the bridge when we get there" and then he seeme d to come closer again.
Truly though, when I am the one to withdraw, he seems to come closer. Its the same old push and pull, the pursue and distance dance.
I really wish I understood that but it does seem the case. The more we want, the more they don't. It doesn't make sense. After a while, I want to say, let's get over the past and work on the present and the future.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
