Thanks for the advice. Its true, our kids are the real victms. I realize I have to be strong for my d12, as she takes her cues from me. When I was stressed, she was too. This 2 weeks without my H were really relaxing for me and she felt that too and had fun.
I will tell the C about D12's wishes but defer to her judgement as well on how we will approach this as parents.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go