How do you trust someone who isn't sorry?

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I have checked out the FB page and even see some of you but to be honest... I haven't even "liked" the page because I don't want to blow my anonymity here. I did that once before when I DB'd after my XH left and it blew up in my face horribly (became close to 3 DB'ers... 1 female who was a sweetheart who fell for a fellow DB'er, I have no clue how that turned out though. 2 male fellow DB'ers and that was not good. 1 confused our friendship for more and that was heartbreaking. The other I made the stupid mistake of dating for a few weeks and after I broke it off (because he really was crazy like his XW claimed), he contacted my XH and the OW and gave them the link here to all my private thoughts and DB'ing for over a year. It was mortifying. MORTIFYING. Michele and JJ had to delete all my posts. And once the the anonymity is blown, where do we go for help? FB and DB is playing with fire to me and I'm too scared to go there.