WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Please help.

My H is still definitely at least in contact with OW. He insisted he had nothing to do with OW's new house that she is building and I searched public records and found his name and phone number on some of the permits issued.

I am so distraight. I feel like a fool and an idiot. We are supposed to go to visit H in college this weekend but I am sick to my stomach.

He has lied to me SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't even believe it. I know, I know I shouldn't be looking for this stuff, but I did and now I know. I think he is helping to build her house and then who knows? Maybe he'll move in. Timing could be just perfect seeing that my youngest will be headed to school.

I don't deserve this. I need to confront but am terrified. I want to leave this paperwork (that I found and printed online) on his desk but I know I need to clear my head and not be irrational.

Headed to the beach for a walk. Any advice is so appreciated.


Me - 49
H - 56
S - 23
D - 20
Married 25 years
H moved out 10/11/13
H moved back in 10/13/13
H moved out again 8/1/14