I agree with you that we definitely had a role in the demise of our marriages, but that does not give our wives the right to go outside of the marriage.
My biggest frustration is that my wife took her concerns about our marriage to someone outside of the marriage. She identified to the OM all the issues she had with me and he began to meet those needs and looks like a real hero. She then tells me that she shouldn't have to tell me what her needs are. Go figure. I have now shown her that I am capable of making chnages and had she raised those concerns prior to the bomb I would have addressed them. Anyways, you can't go back.
Nothing much has changed in my situation. Wife did call me today about a stressful situation at work. She sought out my support and advice. I was glad to help and appreciated the fact that she felt comfortable reaching out to me. On the otherhand, she still does not say good morning or good night to me unless I say it first. Not sure where that comes from??? Why can't a person make at least some effort to communicate.
Doesn't seem to be any change in our roommate status. I wonder how much of this our 3 kids pick up on. Must be weird to have parents that never hug, kiss or show any form of affection for each other.
Wife is still in the process of looking for another job which is a good sign because then she would no longer be working with the OM. I continue to monitor the situation, but have not seen any signs that they are still together. My wife hasn't bought a Cosmopolitan magazine since before I confronted her about the OM. Always made me wonder why someone who is supposibly not having sex (with me anyway) would be buying cosmo??? She denied a PA, but there are times when I still have my doubts.
