SIC, i dont think i commented on your sitch, but i have been following it.
I understand what you mean when you say "I can't believe this is happening" . I get up every day with this feeling. It is the worst feeling in the world.
Just like you and punchy, I really am getting to the point where i might actually be 'happy' once our divorce is over. It will leave me free to search for a better person. But i feel horrible when i get this thought as i still love my wife and would love for us to bring up our lil daughter well.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...